Why did he leave me? If you ask a “why” question, regarding your sad experience, you’re hoping that the person who caused your pain will change. You hope he will understand you, feel compassionate, and come back to you. He just needs to change to make you feel better. Right? Wrong. You are asking the…
Many spouses of alcoholics think that Their mood depends on their spouses behavior It’s their job to change their spouses They could stop the problem if they quit the relationship A woman of an alcoholic complains that her spouse often abuses, humiliates and embarrasses her with his words and actions. She believes he makes her…
Once a colleague asked me, with indignation, “What did you assume? Your behavior suggested you are afraid that I could harm you in some way. It’s insulting! Assume good intentions!” I felt as if I was caught in a fearful thought! Many times in relationships we assume things like, “They don’t appreciate me”, “They don’t…
When I regret that something hasn’t been accomplished yet, I know I shouldn’t. Because any endeavor in life is a process.It’s like putting together a puzzle. Right now I’m putting together a thousand piece puzzle. First, I connect the edges, then what’s easy, the obvious parts. Then I come up with strategies for the rest of…
Recently my Instagram instructor, Zarina Ivanter, interviewed a fashion expert, Yulia Pozdova, about an outfit for business people. My attention was drawn to Yulia’s brief comparison between psychotherapists vs. psychologists vs. life coaches. She said, “A psychotherapist digs deep, long and expensive.” She suggested that in America they decided that people need different specialist –…
I’ve never liked it when volunteers are asked uncomfortable questions. Recently, I observed a situation on a webinar. A participant didn’t want to write about herself in her social network. She was afraid of a negative reaction. The instructor asked her about the emotions she was experiencing. What was holding her back? What she felt…
True Halloween horror Recently I encountered a post calling to walk away from toxic family members or friends or colleagues. Wow, 15673 likes! How much people love sharing their experiences with “toxic” mother, or sister, or boss. I see those posts time to time and always wonder, “What’s so enticing to blame toxic people?” My…
What does she mean saying “calibrate,” I often hear frustrated voices of newcomers to Abraham Hicks teachings. And here are my 23 lines glossary of Abraham concepts in simple words. Abraham Hicks – source of universal wisdom Alignment – tuning to the frequency of Happiness and Love Calibration – a conscious deliberate process to navigate…
It is a conference room full of people at the one of Abraham Hicks’ workshops. All are smiling and laughing loudly in smaller groups. I’m excited and anticipating to be called to the “hot” seat, where I can ask any question to Abraham. The session starts. Quiet. I hear Esther’s breathing. Magic is going to…
A sunny day. Autumn 2012. Yellow leaves rustle under my feet. I’m walking alone to bring my thoughts together. I hear the beat of my heart, “Boom – boom – boom. No sales – no income – no job.” I’m an author, who fails to sell her books. So, should I rather find a job?…